Months go by and the excitement kinda wears off. The replies to your urgent wedding planning questions are slower and less enthusiastic. You noticed that one member of your bride tribe is a no show to appointments and missing some bridesmaid outings. Her enthusiasm for being a bridesmaid seems to have left the building and you picked up on shady a comment in the group chat.
This is your girl but you’re wondering what is going on with her. She would never act this way but she’s not being the bridesmaid you thought she would be. The more time goes on, the worse the situation is getting.
WHAT DO YOU DO NOW?
Do you address it or let it go? This is always a touchy subject and not an easy one to handle. You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or lose a friend but your friend isn’t being a good friend.
Firing a bridesmaid happens and it’s never easy to do but sometimes it’s necessary. For peace of mind. To save your friendship. And to keep the peace. Not just for you but for the bridesmaid that is being relieved of her duties.
SO HERE IS HOW YOU HANDLE IT….
- BE A FRIEND, NOT A BRIDE
Talk to your disgruntled bridesmaid as a friend, not a bride. Before you read her for not fulfilling her bridesmaid duties, find out what’s happening with her. Check on her and see if there is something going on in her life that is keeping her busy or disinterested in being a bridesmaids
- GIVE HER A CHANCE TO BOW OUT
Sometimes your friend doesn’t want to hurt your feelings so she won’t admit she doesn’t want to be a bridesmaid. Put the option on the table and let her know it’s no hard feelings whatever she decides to do.
- REMOVE THE TOXIC BEHAVIOR
Your last resort might be to just fire her. It’s unfortunate but it happens. Your peace of mind is not worth having someone around that will take your bridal joy away. If she’s acting like this now, imagine what she will do on your wedding day. Do you want that smoke? I don’t think you do.
As a bride, there is nothing worse than having someone steal your bridal joy. Especially when it comes from a friend. Sometimes your girl is just shady and other times she may be going through her own struggles. Whatever her issue is, you have to do what’s best for you. You want good vibes only while you are planning your wedding. The love and support of your bride tribe will make your wedding planning fun and stress-free. You will have enough on your plate. Your bridesmaids should be your peace.
DO YOU HAVE BRIDESMAIDS DILEMMA AND DON’T KNOW HOW TO HANDLE IT? DROP YOUR STORY IN THE COMMENTS AND LET’S TALK IT OUT.
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